It is important to discover how self-concept is developed and how self-concept and communication are related. The affects the way in which you communicate, and your communication is affected by your self-concept. For example, assume Omar, one of your classmates, makes this statement, “I don’t think I don’t think I have the ability to learn the new software”. “Omar has indicated that he feels he is inept in his ability to learn a certain skill; through his statement he has communicated negative feelings about himself.
Self concept is the way you see yourself You may see yourself as attractive or unattractive, smart or stupid, witty or humorless, athletic or nonathletic, and so forth. Every characteristic you think you have goes into the formation of your self-concept. You have decided these things about yourself based on your experiences and the feedback you have received from others.
Through experience you learn your strong and week points, and your likes and dislikes. Each day you have different experiences, which contribute to your self-concept. For example, if you excelled in typing, you are likely to continue taking similar and advanced courses. On the other hand, if you did poorly in management, you’d probably consider it your worst subject and avoid taking additional courses in the future if possible. Do you remember the first time you participated in probably decided that you had some athletic ability. You may have become quite active in sports and spent a large part of your leisure time participating in sports. if you were not skilled in sports activities, you probably convinced yourself that you were not athletic and quit participating in sports.
Feedback From Others
Your self-concept is also a reaction of how others see you and respond to you. suppose that you are constantly told that you are smart and hard working individual, then you may consider yourself a talented person. Also, Suppose you are told that you are a good speaker. After hearing that several times. You probably decide that you do have ability in public speaking, and you may work hard to be even better. Other people’s comments can validate, reinforce, or alter your perceptions of who you are and what you can do. the more positive comments you receive, the more positive self-concept you are likely to accumulate. Conversely, negative comments destroy self-esteem and develop a negative self-concept.
Self-concept and Communication
Your self-concept has a definite effect on your communication with others. Your vocabulary and tone of voice are indications of how you feel about yourself. The impression you make on others in the daily contacts and interactions are indicators of your self-concept.
Your Vocabulary and Tone of Voice: there is a definite connection between one’s self-image and on’s speech habits and voice inflection. People with low self-esteem frequently voice complaints such as “Ali got the promotion only because his uncle is a head manager” (the fact that Ali attended night school for five years is not mentioned).
in contrast, people with positive self-concept make statements such as “I can’t wait to try that, I know I will be successful”, and “this job is going to be a challenge”. “Their voice is enthusiastic and they manner self-confident.
Your Impression on Others: The higher your self-concept, the more likely you are to leave a positive impression on others. Conversely, the lower your self-esteem, the more negative the image you are likely or reflect to others. For example, if you believe that you can be successful as an office professional, you approach each task with self-confidence. You soon impress believe you do not have the skills necessary to be successful in carrying out your office duties, you reveal by your actions a lack of confidence in yourself.
interpersonal Relationships: A person with a negative self-concept experiences such self-defeating emotions frequently. Such a person wants to withdraw into a shell. This person seems to feel that he or she is not worthy the company of others.
The person with a positive self-concept seeks out to interact with others and enjoys interpersonal, you will interact easily with others and you will enjoy your work. Such feedback will reinforce you self-concept and influence it in a positive way.
Now consider how you might strengthen your self-concept:
Be Open to New Experiences: your self-concept can be strengthened if you allow yourself to be opened to new ideas and to new experiences. Believe in the feedback you received from this new experience, and allow yourself to test your creativity further with additional creative experiences.
Set Your Own Directions: You have also learned that self-concept is a result of what others tell you about yourself. As you have matured, however, you have probably discovered that others are not always accurate. Too many people accept others’ perceptions without question.
If you want to strengthen your own self-concept, you must start by recognizing that perceptions reflected by others can be wrong. If someone says to you, “You do not play volleyball very well”, you may ask yourself, what do my past experiences and knowledge tell me about how I play volleyball? If you have always been successful at this sport, you should conclude that you may have had a bad day or for some unexplained reason this person does not think you play well. but you don’t have to accept every statement that others make about you. You should evaluate their statements based on what you know about yourself and your experiences. You should decide whether such statements are accurate or not. To do this, you must be able to think independently and rationally and sort out the valuable from the erroneous feedback. In other words, set your own directions.